Comments on Wait.What?: Broken thinking

I think you should again think of a family vacatio...

2008-09-20T02:25:00.000-05:00

I think you should again think of a family vacation trip & give your husband an another chance.

You have come so far - as well he has - hang in th...

2008-09-09T10:04:00.000-05:00

You have come so far - as well he has - hang in there - I know you will get through this thing in your head.

Just checking back to see if you're ok. Hope you'r...

2008-08-31T11:24:00.000-05:00

Just checking back to see if you're ok. Hope you're enjoying the last days of summer!

That is a fantastic post and one that I needed to ...

2008-08-27T14:16:00.000-05:00

That is a fantastic post and one that I needed to read. While I have always been sober while in the "family" way, my husband and I were dating in the last two years of my drinking. After reading your post, my guess is that he probably had many of the same thoughts. I pray for your continued healing and that your husbnad remains sober. A win/win situation, don't you think :)

I just got back from taking my stepson to college....

2008-08-27T10:36:00.000-05:00

I just got back from taking my stepson to college. For years now I have not participated in things that involve my husband's ex because she's soooooo rude to me.

My husband really wanted me to go and promised if she did something he would stand up for me. I openened myself up and went. It was totally different! She was only rude a little bit and it rolled right off me. We were even able to all go out to dinner together.

It worked out fine and I got to see my stepson off. I was glad that I took the chance.

The last holiday I spoiled for my family was my br...

2008-08-26T07:54:00.000-05:00

The last holiday I spoiled for my family was my breaking point exactly 4 years ago, I cannot remember much about it only I coul;dnt drive home when they told us our time was up at the caravan.
My last drink was the next day and never again.
Holidays are when you feel liberated so I guess it was the time for me to go out with a bang

Well it sounds to me your husband and I have a lot...

2008-08-25T19:51:00.000-05:00

Well it sounds to me your husband and I have a lot in common. Maybe we don’t have the same exact stories, but we do share the same exact results. For what it’s worth (coming from a dyslexic drunk), I think he needs to be invited on the next trip. If not to precipitate healing, then to carry the luggage. ;)

I know exactly what you mean. with our family, we...

2008-08-25T18:56:00.000-05:00

I know exactly what you mean. with our family, we all get tense when we move. That was my husband's favorite time to throw his pity parties and get drunk. It's funny though, all the tension only seems to apply to me and my two oldest kids, my two younger ones couldn't remember a time when dad used to drink.

I hope for your family's sake that the old memorie...

2008-08-25T15:24:00.000-05:00

I hope for your family's sake that the old memories are replaced with happy ones!

you've brought back many a childhood memory and an...

2008-08-25T08:56:00.000-05:00

you've brought back many a childhood memory and anxiety there. you are a very giving and understanding person, you know!

Tears come from eyes.. I hear your fear though min...

2008-08-25T08:22:00.000-05:00

Tears come from eyes.. I hear your fear though mine was with my father as a child in the same acts! We do though have to throw away the old cob webs that have weaved themselves into our lives and let the light wash away the dark. I agree you would miss him you wish he was there and your trip wouldnt be what it could! If you ever need a should i am here to listen. Let go of the hurt fullness it will eat away at what happiness we have! Your amazing and beautiful and with that i say have a wonderful day!
hugs
sarah

what honest writing... I hope you can get that lov...

2008-08-24T21:17:00.000-05:00

what honest writing... I hope you can get that lovely family holiday.

My alcoholic father ruined many special events whe...

2008-08-24T11:46:00.000-05:00

My alcoholic father ruined many special events when I was a kid and we didn't really even attempt vacations. He was especially bad on holidays and school recitals, etc.

My co-worker recently got back from vacation in the Wisconsin Dells. It just so happens that he husband is an alcoholic. You know, I'm not even sure if he went with her, come to think of it.

I think you are right, though. You should attempt to vacation with him. And try not to "what if" it.

Sounds like you're working through something, maki...

2008-08-23T20:28:00.000-05:00

Sounds like you're working through something, making progress. This is good.

I understand completely also.As always, you put it...

2008-08-23T15:28:00.000-05:00

I understand completely also.As always, you put it out there honestly & well spoken.

My first sober vacation was terrifying and sad. I ...

2008-08-23T08:59:00.000-05:00

My first sober vacation was terrifying and sad. I wasn't ready to try it, having about 90 days, but I had to go to a wedding in Hawaii and didn't want to disappoint a friend. It was a week away from home and filled with stresssss.

It was a good experience, but not a fond memory kind of vacation. What with all the tears and anxiety, being thrown out of my normal, and not having the alcohol to prop me up.

You might want to talk with your husband about it, just mention you'd like to take a short trip and see how he feels about it, see if he's ready.

I know now that if I had to do it again I would be fine, even though I'm drinking again. Having a vacation with family last year that was a week long, where I had exactly 2 glasses of wine the whole week, made me realize just how far I had come in beating my alcohol dependence.

Cat, I don't think that it is broken thinking. I o...

2008-08-23T06:47:00.000-05:00

Cat, I don't think that it is broken thinking. I once was told that I had post-traumatic stress from the drinking behavior. All I know is that is in the past now. I can't undo that but I have let it go. There is a different relationship now. And I trust that on this day things will go along as God has planned. You stuck through some tough times just as I did. But today is a different day.

Hmm...think blogger ate my last comment. Just want...

2008-08-22T19:21:00.000-05:00

Hmm...think blogger ate my last comment. Just wanted to say that I'm glad I've found you. Thank you.

I'm so glad I've found you, you have given me a lo...

2008-08-22T19:15:00.000-05:00

I'm so glad I've found you, you have given me a lot to think about.

the broken brain can heal.. from the pic it looks...

2008-08-22T18:09:00.000-05:00

the broken brain can heal.. from the pic it looks like a very small bandage :)

I understand. Completely.

2008-08-22T17:49:00.000-05:00

I understand. Completely.